3 Ways to be a good Friend to your Husband

We wives love our husbands that's a fact, but do we like them? Do we enjoy them? Are we their friend? Are we our husbands best friend?

 3 Ways to be a good friend to your husband



1) Be a Friend that sticks close Loyalty
 
"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24

Stay close to your man, by having his back no matter what. Every man wants a comrade a person they can trust a confidant one they can talk to without being judged. Be that friend who is friendly to her man who listens and sticks close by her man and his ideas, thoughts, wises, desires.

2) Lay Your life  down
" Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends". John 15:13

To be a good friend lay your life down. Be willing to do anything for your man be willing to die to your pride, your selfishness  and your complaining unthankful spirit. Let me tell you a unthankful, complaining, selfish and prideful spirit will not make you a good companion. I know because I've been there more than once. My man didn't like it and neither will yours. Who wants to be friends with a woman like that? I know I don't!

3) Don't be make friends with Anger
" Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go;" Proverbs 22:24-27

Being a good friend means letting go of anger. Don't waste your time on being angry, rather love covers a multitude of sins. When you make friends with anger your countenance becomes that of anger. You look angry, smell angry and no one wants to be around a bitter woman. Rather let your words edify, encourage and build up your man. Always speak of good around him. Let his ears hear your words always be full of grace.

Marriage Monday 3 Ways to rot your mans bones 3 Ways to be a crown

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4

Are you ashamed of your man? Well, if you are then you are rotting his bones.
Here are 3 sure ways to you can rot your husbands bones.

1)Complain

A complaining spirited woman is surely one who is like death to a man, heck she is like death to anyone who hears her. I know I've been a complaining wife before, heck some days I just cant wait for my husband to come home to pour my heart out to him,my heart of complaints. I let him have an earful, I tell him how horrible of  day I had, how the children bickered all day, how they fought, how they messed and didn't help me clean. I go on and on about how hard I have it or how so and so said this on Facebook. Then I begin to complain about how tired I am.
Ladies stop complaining to your husband you are sucking his bones dry, like vinegar to a chicken bone causing it to bend and wear thin. Your man doesn't want to hear your complaints heck hardly anyone does. Surely he wishes he was on the rooftop.

2)Be unthankful/ungrateful

A unthankful Spirit is a miserable soul. When a wife is unthankful she will wallow in self-pity and want everyone around to feel sorry for her. I've done it. We all have done it. This is where we are good at manipulating others into feeling bad for us. Goodness I've been there a thousand times. I will sit and feel so sorry for myself how I have it so hard homeschooling, cooking, cleaning, buying groceries on a shoe string budget or make a big fuss that our husband doesn't get us flowers or gifts or take us on dates. Rather than be so unthankful for the things we do have the people in our lives and the love we've been shown. Un-thankfulness robs your joy and kills your happiness.

3) Be ashamed of your Husband

An embarrassed wife is a wife who is ashamed of her husband. This can manifest itself in the way our husbands dress, look, act or the job he has. We can be ashamed that he doesn't lead us the way we want, that he doesn't pray or read the Bible to us the way we desire or maybe he doesn't dress the way we want or maybe he doesn't dress the kids the way we want. So rather than be proud of the man God gave us we are shamefaced at all he does, shaking our heads at him and scorning our finger at him.

       On the bright side we can be a crown to our husband.
                    3 ways to be a crown to your husband

1) Praise/Adoration

A wife who praises her husband and adores her man can be a crown to him. he will defiantly be proud to have her as a wife, he will want to display her for all to see. He will compliment her and be so thankful for her. When we adore our husbands this shows we are honored to be their wives. Praise them for being our husband for being the father of our children, praise them for loving us and praise them for small accomplishments like taking the garbage out, dressing the kids, or even just for staying married to us.

2)Pray for your man

A praying wife is for sure a wife who is a crown to her man. She is concerned about the wellbeing of her husband, she watches out for the affairs of him by praying for him. A wife who prays for her husband truly shows him that she trust God to work in and through him. She is saying I love you enough to pray for you daily. This is a virtuous  woman, a woman who prays.


3)Thankfulness

A thankful spirit is a crown anyone would be honored to wear. A wife who is thankful can conquer the world. She can overcome anything. Be that kind of wife who is always smiling always thankful. So when your man walks in or wakes up first thing in the morning he sees your bright eyes happy to see him smiling. A thankful heart radiates and lights up any dark room.


You see we get to chose our attitude and how we want to be. D we want to be cancer to our husbands bones or a crown that he proudly wears?

Marriage Monday" Your canvas, Your master piece, Your work of Art, Your Marriage"

              Marriage is hard work, but I am learning little things                                    add up and make a difference.

The small things we do in our marriage should be done with Great and Big love.
 It really does matter and it really does make a difference.



When you make his breakfast, lunch, dinner or pack his lunch. It matters, do it with great love.


When you wash his laundry, pick up his dirty socks, sweep his crumbs. It matters, do it with great love.

When you make his bed, clean the bathroom he used, put the trash bag in the trash can (because he forgot again) It matters, do it with great love.

When you look into his eye do so with adoration, when you smile at him do so with gratitude, when you  hold his hand do so with appreciation.

It all matters so do it with great love

Life is short and the days are passing, turning into weeks, and the weeks turn to months and the months turn to years, the years turn into decades and the decades turn into a lifetime.

It all matters so do it with a great love. Dont miss the opportunity to love your spouse greatly. Yes, he may have his quirks, his funny way of doing things, he may annoy you at times as Im sure you do him, but in the end He CHOSE YOU to be His FOREVER FRIEND, LOVER, AND SOUL MATE.

You are His and He is Yours. Together you are a masterpiece. Your  marriage is a piece of Art.

So how do we create and or add to our masterpiece, our work of art? What if you look at your marriage canvas and see a huge blob of a mess? What now? Is there any hope you might ask?

Certainly, I am no expert, my canvas is a bit messy, but its a beautiful mess, that my husband and I created together. Sure, the shading is all wrong, and its a bit abstract looking and those who have no appreciation for Art probably gaze with no gratitude for such a canvas. But, it is ours and I am proud of what we have painted together.

We as wives can certainly be thankful for such Art. Here are a few things we can do to add to our canvas.

 I hope that you enjoy your beautiful canvas on this Marriage Monday display it proudly and Rejoice

Marriage Monday Polish your Marriage

On this Marriage Monday May we all treat our marriage differently than all other relationships.

Marriage Monday Speak kind of your husband.

                                              All Marriages thrive on one little word called

While this little word is merely 7 letters long, it makes a huge difference in your marriage. Have you ever noticed that the command given to wives in scripture is for us to respect our husbands? Not, that women don't need respect from their husbands too, but God gives us wives the command to respect our husbands to revere them.

So what is respect? If we are going to succeed in it and give it, we must first know what it is.
Respect defined by Websters Dictinonary is:

: a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc.
: a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way

: a particular way of thinking about or looking at something

It can also be defined as:

 

:  a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation <remarks having respect to an earlier plan>

:  an act of giving particular attention :  consideration

a :  high or special regard :  esteem

b :  the quality or state of being esteemed

c plural :  expressions of high or special regard or deference <paid our respects>

 

 

One way we as wives ca show respect to our husbands is by the way we speak about them to others.

So often I hear and read women posting things on Facebook about their spouse. Often, it is not good. Some women jokingly put their spouse down and use cutting remarks when they talk about their husband. It always makes me uncomfortable.

 

Regardless of the kind of husband you have you are commanded in scripture to respect him. By that I mean you are to respect the position he holds as your husband and leader, now it doesn't mean you have to approve, like and even encourage his sinful behavior if in fact he is is being sinful scripture shows us how women are to react when their husband is ungodly, we are told in 1 Peter 3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

So be kind in the way you speak and have conversations about your husband for your children hear every word you speak about your husband and repeat your words. Honor your husband in your speach. 

 

 There is always something nice, kind, and praise worthy we can find about our husbands if we are only willing to look for it and not grow bitter. Unthankfulness causes bitterness, be thankful and show it in your words.

 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phil 4:8

Do away with the "Poor me"

Marriage Monday 

Staying in love has everything to do with forgiveness and gratefulness. Without forgiveness you will remain bitter and un-thankful.

Marriage is alot of work.

 There was a time in my marriage when I use to keep track of everything my husband did wrong. 

It was so easy to point out all his faults, shortcomings, and sin.

I had this poor me attitude. 

Poor me, I always have to cook, and clean, take care of the kids, I never get any time for myself.

Poor me, I dont get to go out and work like he does, poor me, poor me I never get a break. Poor me little Cinderella here at home all day long, never get to go to the ball but rather serve serve serve. 

Slave away in my castle, waiting for Prince Charming to come wisk me off my feet. 

Then my husband would come home and he was from Prince Charming. My expectations of him were to come home, and take over all the housework, the caring of the children, and give me the long awaited break Ive been waiting all day long for. 

This unfulfilled expectation filled my heart with bitterness and un-thankfulness. Leading to a home of joylessness. I was unhappy with a poor me attitude, and Id make sure everyone knew how miserable I was. 

Oh, those were dreadful, dreary days for sure. Forgiveness is a guard for your heart from becoming sour, thankfulness is shield against discontentment . 

When we forgive our spouse we free ourselves to love without condition. When we are thankful we shield our hearts and minds from "poor me" attitudes. 

So today on this Marriage Monday Chose to forgive chose to be thankful in your marriage and put away the "poor me" attitude.

You are far more blessed than you realize.

Marriage Monday

When I got married 13years ago we were given a beautiful       wooden  box with this poem written in it.

This box truly has been an inspiration to me in my marriage.

Marriage truly is like an empty box. Many people get married for all the wrong reasons and have an abundant of expectations when they get married, I was one of them.

 I found myself taking so much out of my box that eventually there was nothing left. I thought that my marriage would be filled with all the things I had longed for, sex, romance, companionship, hopes, dreams,intimacy, friendship, and love.

The truth is marriage at the start is in fact like an empty box. There really is nothing in it at the beginning. All the things you look for in marriage is really what is in the other person and it is up to both of you to infuse those things into your marriage lest it become an empty box.

You can not day after day take out of your box if you dont put something in it to withdrawl from.

It reminds of a bank account. You can not keep spending and withdrawing money from your bank account if you have not deposited any money into it. If you attempt to do so, you will find your account over drawn and eventually the account will need to be closed because you were irresponsible and unable to maintain it.

Early on in my marriage I would complain about my husband not being romantic enough, affectionate enough, serving enough, loving enough, etc.

I remember being reminded daily as I saw the wooden box sit on our bedroom dresser, that marriage was like an empty box. As I complained about how "empty" my marriage felt and how lonely I felt, God showed me that it was because I was withdrawing more than I had deposited. I was in the "negative" so to speak.

This led me to change the way I was treating my marriage, and to daily deposit into my marriage account.

Marriage truly is an investment. You must daily put into it if you want to take anything out of it. So rather than complain about your marriage, do something about it. Even if you are the only one who is depositing into it, so what, you are one with your spouse and why not enjoy it when your spouse gets to benefit from it.

It should make you the wife glad that you can please and make your husband happy.

So go and make deposit big into your marriage today!

Marriage Monday

 
Today is Marriage Monday every Monday I will Blog about Marriage. The good, the bad and the

ugly, (did I really type that)?!



Yes, Marriage is good, bad, and sometimes its out right ugly. A beautiful mess sometimes!

Today I will celebrate 13 years of being married. WOW, where has the time gone?  The time has gone in building memories, building a life together, building a future together, and building a legacy together.

13 years of laughter
13 years of tears
13 years of disappointments at times
13 years of silliness
13 years of pain and at times sorrow
13 years of suffering
                           13 years of enduring
                           13 years of patience
                           13 years of joy
13 years of kindness
13 years of gentleness
13 years of self control
                          13 years of arguments sometimes
                          13 years of flirting
                         13 years of sarcasam
13 years of grumpiness
13years of sassiness
                       13years of hopes
                       13years of goals
                       13 years of "no your wrong"
13 years of "Im sorry I was wrong"
13 years of hearing " I love you "
13 years of hearing "your so beautiful"
                13 years of snoring and farting in the same bed together
               13 years of cuddling and love making
              13 years of adoring looks
13 years of financial hardships and financial joys
13 years of training children and being trained
13 years successes
           13 years of failures
                13 years of expereinces and memories that I wouldnt trade for anything else