Marriage Monday 3 WAYS bring back the SPARK in your marriage

How many times have you felt unattractive and your marriage felt a little dull and well a bit boring?
Have you ever felt like your marriage is just not what it sue to be when you first met? Maybe you don't kiss as much or have fun like you use to, or maybe you aren't even as intimate as you once were.
Sometimes in marriage our relationship gets neglected, yes maybe we schedule dates but frankly it may just not be enough. Well, your not alone. I have felt this way before and thousands of wives have too.
You see we get so focused on the kids, on homeschooling, and homemaking that we neglect our men. We forget to be that sassy cute sexy beautiful fun flirty woman they feel in love with. Heck, our days are now filled with cleaning, laundry, and training children.

Well I'm here to reveal to you 3 ways that you can be SEXY, FLIRTY, and FUN with your man, and bring back the spark you are lacking,

1)BE SEXY
It always surprises me how many women especially Christian women are so reluctant to be sexy for their husbands. Goodness, they get so prude and are afraid to even talk about it. It really is okay to be sexy for your husband the marriage bed is pure and undefiled. Now, sexy will be different for each woman and each marriage, a wife should explore and ask her husband what he likes. You will find that you will enjoy being sexy for your man.

2)FLIRTY
Its okay to flirt with your husband and do it often. It makes a happy marriage its awesome to see my children giggle with delight as I pat my husbands bottom or when he throws me back for a kiss. They enjoy watching their mamma and daddy flirt and dance in the living room and just be in love.

3)HAVE FUN
Stop being such a snob and prude and FUN KILLER with your man. Grab some nerf guns and be his best playing partner, throw water balloons, chase him wrestle with him. BE HIS BUDDY his friend and WIN HIS HEART DAILY. Have fun!

I hope these 3 Tips help you to bring back some spark and spunk in your marriage and always remember that a good and happy marriage always begins with you !!!!!!!!

Monday Marriage: 5 Ways to QUICKLY RESOLVE A FIGHT IN MARRIAGE

Marriage is such hard work isn't it? If someone ever tells you that marriage isn't work then they are lying or they simply are clueless because the fact is, IT'S WORK.



Have you ever wondered how some couples seem to just have it all together in their marriage? They never fight or argue, and if they do it seems to be resolved quickly?

Well your not alone, I too have wondered how many women in their marriage seem to be able to handle conflict with such dignity, integrity and respect with their mate.

Today's post is all about learning to FIGHT to WIN. But, not in the sense that you may think. Its not about WINNING to be right or WINNING to prove a point, but its WINNING TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE AND MARRIAGE. Its FIGHTING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE!

Early on in my marriage I remember when my husband and I would fight or argue, I would get real defensive and begin to attack the very man I loved. I remember bringing up things that happened years ago and throw it in his face, or I remember being able to ignore him in such a way that it would drive him crazy.
Its interesting how we women can one minute adore our husbands and the next the claws come out and our emotions switch and we can claw their eyes out.

Yes, you know what I'm talking about. Sometimes we can fight dirty. I want to share with you 3 ways that you FIGHT to WIN in your marriage. These 3 TESTED and PROVED ways will be sure to have you WIN any FIGHT in your marriage!


1)I DONT WANT TO FIGHT

When you tell yourself and your spouse these 5 little words, it can change so much. It can change the tone of your attitude and the tone of your spouses. No woman really wants to fight with her husband, I mean come on you really don't want to argue or fight, so why not remind yourself of that and end the fight by saying those words.

2)I WANT WHATS BEST FOR YOU

When you want whats best for your husband you wont argue or fight with him because you know that it is not in his best interest. You know that fighting with him is hurting him. So want good for him and want his best.

3)LOVE COVERS IT ALL

There is nothing that love cant cover. Think of Gods love toward us, while we were yet sinners Christ died for us, he loved us at our worst. We can love our husbands when they are at their worst, cant we? Some women give up to easily, they think they are doing good by separating from their husbands or leaving them because he sinned or did something. Im not talking about husbands who physically abuse their wives clearly that's dangerous to live in and a woman needs to contact the authorities and protect herself and the children from physical abuse, but there are women who will leave their husbands because he is abusive in his words or for other minor things, this is HURTFUL to the children, IVE SEEN IT!!!
So LOVE YOUR MAN LOVE COVERS ALL THINGS.

3 Tips to Keep your Marriage Strong this week

Monday Marriage 3 Tips this week to Keep your Marriage Strong

 

 

 

1)BE FRIENDLY

2)BE A FOLLOWER

3)BE FIESTY

 

 

Now we all may not be able to go out and buy a cow to milk here in the city but we can fix the leaky sink, change the oil, be a playmate to our man, and we can buy some ice cream and have a midnight treat with our husband. Be a good friend to your man this week be kind and follow our husbands ideas and plans.

 

 

HAPPY MARRIAGE

Marriage Monday 7days of Wisdom

3 ways to service your marriage

We all want a good, happy marriage. We all want that fairytale ending. Well the fact is it doesn't just happen. Marriage takes work. Marriage takes commitment. marriage takes loyalty. Your marriage will reflect all what you put into it.

Just like our vehicles marriage needs tuning also. We take our cars to get tuned to get check up's. We get the spark plugs changed, add new oil filters, get the oil changed, top all the fluids, change tires if need be. We do those things because well, we don't want to neglect out vehicle and then one day it die out and clunk out on us, and we be stranded down the road somewhere.

Likewise, our marriage needs to be fine tuned and needs to be serviced often. We need to evaluate its weak spots, service those weaknesses and change out those old bad habits that is causing our marriage to not run as smoothly.

Here are 3 ways to make your marriage run at its best:

1)Communicate

Set time aside every day to talk. When we first got married we did something called "talk time" When my husband would get home from work we would sit on the couch. Id make his favorite tea. We would just talk about our day. We did this for at least 15min everyday. It helped us both unwind. After we started having children our children got trained in that as well, that when daddy got home it was mommy and daddy's talk time, they would go play or watch a video for 15min, while mommy and daddy talked.
This kept the connection going and I felt more emotionally connected to him and he relaxed and unwind from the day. I would  even sometimes massage his feet or rub his back, or visa versa. You could use this time to pray together or read Gods word together.


2)Date Nights

Setting time for  a date makes your marriage more efficient because its just you two reconnecting and getting away. You get that youthful feeling again, I know I do every time I have a date with my man. Its nice to get dressed up and go out. We focus this time on enjoying one another hugging, kissing, laughing and just having fun. Try and schedule a date weekly if you can if not then do a monthly date, but you can still put the kids to bed early and have a date at home.



3)Be positive

Its amazing how a positive attitude can change the atmosphere in a home. If your constantly crabby, grumpy, grumbling over the silliest things, then you can expect your man and marriage to suffer. Be positive always seek the good always look for the good always do good. A positive person is so much fun to be around for they always seek the best and they always are their best.


The point is when you are servicing your marriage your adding more value to it and it will run much more smoother. Now, it wont be perfect as no marriage but why not have it the best it can be.

What are some ways you service your marriage?

Marriage Monday

Marriage is Hard
No one said it would be easy
Marriage is not always pretty
There are times you will disagree, argue, bicker, fight and annoy each other
Marriage isn't always as the movies portray
Its work, Its digging in the trenches when you don't want to dig
If you want a happy marriage then be a happy person
If you want love in your marriage then be lovely
If you want respect in your marriage then be the first to give it and be the first to act respectful

Marriage Monday 10 Tips

Marriage Monday 10 Tips that can help Your marriage Thrive


1)Smile Smile Smile 
A simple smile can go along way in a marriage it can say so much that words can not

2)KISS MORE
A simple longer kiss can relieve so much tension and stress

3)Be Polite
Say Please, Thank You, Your Welcome common courtesy shows basic respect for your spouse

4)Dance
Grab your husbands arms put them around your waist and look into his eyes and dance with him 

5)Cook A Unhealthy Meal that is His favorite
This is one I got to work on Im such a health freak, but bless your man with his favorite meal trust e he will be so excited

6)Make Love
Initiate sweet love making with your man

7)Dress nice and Comb your hair
Dress nice for your man and comb your hair to his liking

8)Pray 
Pray for your man and with him

9)Send an encouraging note/text
Email or text your man a encouraging note or write a note to him

10)Speak Kind words
Tell your man kind things all the sweet things you love about him and enjoy about him and appreciate about him

*Disclosure
This is not an inclusive or exclusive list, and I am not advocating that this list will cure/resolve marital issues, and this is not a to do list, its just a fun encouragement.

Marriage Monday Receipe

Marriage Monday

 Thinking upon this today....

             Marriage represents Christ and the Church

It is symbolic showing the message of the gospel to the world    around us.

So what kind of Bride are you?

How do we love our husband? How do we serve our husband? How do we speak to and of our husbands?

Marriage Monday

Being your Husbands Biggest Fan His Cheerleader in the stands and his friend....


Being a man in this world in this brutal can sure take a toil on a person especially the men in our lives. Whether your man is a spiritual godly man or not, for him to assert his masculinity and attempt to take the leadership role in the home the world will look on with eyes full of criticism. 

What about us ladies? What do our eyes convey to our men? Do we have eyes of praise, adoration, of admiration? or, do we look upon our husband with disgust and disappointment.

Trust me, the only set of eyes that matter to him are yours. He can face the worlds criticism and the worlds disapproval but he can not face your dis contempt of him.

Treat him like he has already arrived, like he is already that godly man, like he is already that amazing leader, that wonderful father and that great husband. Chances are he will step up to the plate, the more you treat and love him.

Be his friend, where he wants to share things with where he shares his secrets his thoughts with. Be the woman he runs to and be a haven for him. Remind him that you are by his side through the good the bad the ugly and everything in between.

Marriage Monday "Lonliness in Marriage"

Loneliness in Marriage

Sometimes even while being married you can experience loneliness. People think that just because your married that it means you will never again experience loneliness. This is a lie and far from the truth. 
 As many as 95% of married couples confess to have experienced and or are currently lonely in their marriage.
The feelings of loneliness can go and come, causing depression, discontentment and even resentment.

There have been times in my own marriage in the past where I have contemplated a life apart from being married, in the deep thought of my imagination Ive thought about another life, thinking that it would so much more glamorous and better than what I have.

Usually, these thoughts stem from a discontentment with myself then with my marriage. Im
dissatisfied in being a wife and homemaker, yet its much deeper than that.

We were not created to be satisfied in being a wife, in being a mother in being a homemaker. You see, we were created not to be satisfied with people, things, and the work of our hands. While all those things are good and are gifts from the Lord, our satisfaction must stem and be in CHRIST ALONE.


When we are lonely and the feeling of loneliness arises, we must not cling to our deep thoughts, wishful thinking, dreams, fantasy's,  but rather we must cling to the the one who clings and holds us in his hands, who tells us that we are the apple of his eye.

For it is only in Jesus that we are fully satisfied. We were made by him and for him. Yes, we have been given the commission to be wives and helpmates to our husbands along with being keepers of the home. We have been given a bigger calling than that, and we have been called by Jesus to be His. 

Before we are wives/helpmates we are adopted daughters of the King. We belong to King Jesus. Our joy, satisfaction, hope must be found in Him, in what he has done for us. 

We are so quick to look to our husbands to meet our desires, our desire for companionship, to lead us, pray with us, read scripture to us, etc. But our deepest need is found in Jesus. For we are fallen sinful creatures who frankly, are never satisfied , this is why we must cling to the cross even more, remember what he has done for us and cling to his promises in his word.

Sometimes in Marriage we feel ignored, not deemed important, put last, not paid attention to. Sometimes our husbands  neglect us as their wives, and they may or may not realize they do this but that is where we must look to Jesus to satisfy us so that we can appreciate our husbands.

Jesus is always willing to hear us and listen to us, he has so much to tell us is his word.




So today rather than wallow in loneliness why not seek Jesus and be satisfied in what he has done for you and me on the cross of Calvary.

Marriage Monday Maintence

Yesterday, I began to look around my house and see all the maintenance that needed to be done. The laundry vents need to be cleaned out, the air conditioner needs to be switched over, the weeds need pulling, the doors/base boards need touching up.

When you own a home you know all the repairs/fix ups that need to be done and the often maintenance that it takes to keep the house in tip top shape, and in some cases just looking decent.

Likewise with a a vehicle. The oil needs changing, it needs tuning, new filters, spark plugs, tire pressure all need to be checked and changed out. 

So much to do, when you own a home or a vehicle. If you don't maintain either then it will decay faster and break down.

Our Marriages also need maintenance. We need to maintain them. One way to do this is by doing monthly evaluations of your marriage.

You and your husband can keep a log of goals and things you want to accomplish.

As a helpmeet to my husband, I often ask him to tell me 3 ways/ areas I am doing good in my role as his wife and helper  and 3 areas that I am not doing well in, this gives me a balanced approach.

Another way to maintain your marriage is by having Date Nights. These can happen in many forms:

1)Hire a sitter for a couple hours if you can afford it

2)Leave the kids with grandparents

3)Offer swap babysitting with friends/family (you babysit for their date night and in return they babysit for you)

4)Put the kids to bed early and you and your spouse have time together.

5)Ask a close friend from Church or work someone you trust to come over for a couple hours to watch your kids (to show a thank you get him/her a gift card)


Another way to connect and maintain your marriage is through communication. This can happen in many ways:

1)Sending friendly texts and flirtatious texts to your husband is a fun way to maintain and communicate to your husband.

2)Leave cute notes around the house for your husband to find redeemable coupons of sort, one that says "this entitles you to a massage", or "this entitles you to a kiss", or "this entitles you to a .." let your imagination take over, be creative.

3)Send him a email

4)Use social media as a way to communicate your love,adoration and appreciation for him


Another way to maintain your marriage is by being Spontaneous. there are several ways you can do this:

1) Have a overnight day surprise him with a date somewhere overnight without the kids

2)When all the kids are sleeping light some candles and put some soft music on and give him a foot massage 

3)When the kids are sleeping go outside and have a tent ready with a small fire to look at the stars together (if you have a trampoline you can have blankets on the trampoline and watch the stars laying down)

4)Have a romantic dinner prepared when he gets home



No matter what you do just remember that if you want something to last forever you must shield it and protect it. You must maintain it!!!

I hope these ideas help you on this Marriage Monday. Id love to hear how you maintain your marriage...Post your comments below

Marriage Monday" Your canvas, Your master piece, Your work of Art, Your Marriage"

              Marriage is hard work, but I am learning little things                                    add up and make a difference.

The small things we do in our marriage should be done with Great and Big love.
 It really does matter and it really does make a difference.



When you make his breakfast, lunch, dinner or pack his lunch. It matters, do it with great love.


When you wash his laundry, pick up his dirty socks, sweep his crumbs. It matters, do it with great love.

When you make his bed, clean the bathroom he used, put the trash bag in the trash can (because he forgot again) It matters, do it with great love.

When you look into his eye do so with adoration, when you smile at him do so with gratitude, when you  hold his hand do so with appreciation.

It all matters so do it with great love

Life is short and the days are passing, turning into weeks, and the weeks turn to months and the months turn to years, the years turn into decades and the decades turn into a lifetime.

It all matters so do it with a great love. Dont miss the opportunity to love your spouse greatly. Yes, he may have his quirks, his funny way of doing things, he may annoy you at times as Im sure you do him, but in the end He CHOSE YOU to be His FOREVER FRIEND, LOVER, AND SOUL MATE.

You are His and He is Yours. Together you are a masterpiece. Your  marriage is a piece of Art.

So how do we create and or add to our masterpiece, our work of art? What if you look at your marriage canvas and see a huge blob of a mess? What now? Is there any hope you might ask?

Certainly, I am no expert, my canvas is a bit messy, but its a beautiful mess, that my husband and I created together. Sure, the shading is all wrong, and its a bit abstract looking and those who have no appreciation for Art probably gaze with no gratitude for such a canvas. But, it is ours and I am proud of what we have painted together.

We as wives can certainly be thankful for such Art. Here are a few things we can do to add to our canvas.

 I hope that you enjoy your beautiful canvas on this Marriage Monday display it proudly and Rejoice

Marriage Monday "Your Husband Your Friend"

                       How would you finish the above quote? 

Many times as women we look to other women to meet our needs of deep communication, deep fellowship and deep friendship.  Not that having women fellowship is a bad thing, in fact its a great thing. But when women become our best friends and our Husband takes the back burner, then it becomes a bad thing.

Our husband should be our Best friend, the one we run to in times of trouble, the one we call to tell everything to, the one we run to for prayer, counsel and help. 

Is your husband the one you call when your having a bad day? Is he the one you run to for prayer, counsel and spiritual encouragement? Do you tell him everything? Is he the one you want to spend all your time with?

If not, you might be missing out on some great fellowship time!

There is no one who better understands me than my husband. I love him so much that Id rather be hanging out with him than a bunch of other women at a retreat somewhere or a ladies meeting. 

Id rather be laughing with him, flirting with him, talking and even just the comfortable silence we share is such a comfort.

I hope you take time to build your friendship with your husband,

Start by thinking of all the things you enjoy and love about your husband

Marriage Monday Forgiveness keep the light on

Ephesians 4:32 
                    And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

^{Matthew 18:21-22} Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.

 

Its been 13 years since I have been married, and the one thing I have learned is that I can stand my ground and be "right" in my marriage but I will be lonely and the most pitied woman on earth.

Or I can chose to forgive knowing that I have been greatly forgiven .

 There is no sin my spouse commits against me that is greater than my own sin before Almighty God!

The garments of forgiveness is bitterness that manifest itself in hurtful words, a heart that is hard toward the other person. 
It is opposite of life, opposite of light, opposite of love it is poison to the soul.

 

                                  Don't kill yourself with it

 You may stand your ground in your marriage in being "right" but it will not come without a cost, your children are watching, your neighbors are watching, your friends, your family are all watching.

Be the gospel of grace, while we were yet SINNERS CHRIST DIED FOR US.  We werent perfect we werent sinless we weren't righteous when Christ chose to love us. WE WERE SINNERS!!!!

 You can forgive if you chose to. The condition of which your heart is in can still chose forgiveness it is an act of the will.

 You can combat unforgiveness with Grace like a light, keep it turned it on, especially during those dark times when your spirit wants to hold a grudge and your wounded heart wants to hold to "My rights" attitude shine the light of grace turn on forgiveness, give your children the example of the gospel in your marriage.

There is no sin in your marriage that cant be forgiven, even as there is no sin that God hasn't forgiven you of.

Marriage Monday Smile, ,KISS , Flirt, Enjoy your husband

                      Its Marriage Monday

SMILE AT YOUR HUSBAND

KISS YOUR MAN

FLIRT

ENJOY YOUR HUSBAND

Marriage Monday Polish your Marriage

On this Marriage Monday May we all treat our marriage differently than all other relationships.